Happy April! It’s that time of year again when our social media feeds are flooded with memes about flabby winter bodies, and for women everywhere to begin stressing about getting that, “summer body.”
Before I dive into my thoughts on what it means to have a “bikini body” I must confess that feeling good in my own skin for the summer (in terms of weight) is not something I’ve ever really worried about. I’ve never been overweight, nor have I ever gave sh*t if my stomach wasn’t completely flat in my bikini. (It’s called having a normal human body people!)
Now before you decide to hate on me for never feeling chubby and uncomfortable in a bikini, let me remind you that I’m Italian… I have a whole other set of bikini line, stomach hair, leg hair, and underarm hair problems that make me feel plenty uncomfortable in my bikini! So I do understand those moments of feeling totally exposed, imperfect, and wanting to wrap myself in a beach towel and hide.
In recent years I’m sure we’ve all heard the saying, “If you want to have a bikini body, all you need to do is have a body and have a bikini.”
While I appreciate the thought behind this, and the power it gives woman to not feel like they need to have a certain body type in order to wear a bikini… I personally think this mentality misses the mark.
I don’t think having a “bikini body” has anything to do with your body at all!
I believe it is all about your MINDSET.
Although it has become socially acceptable to wear a bikini even if your body doesn’t fit the “ideal beauty standards” if you still feel awkward and uncomfortable, you don’t have a bikini body.
If you can’t walk around feeling comfortable and confident in your own skin, no matter what size you are, you don’t have a bikini body. (Yup, even the woman who is model skinny, but still feels fat doesn’t have a bikini body)
To me, having a bikini body means NOT WORRYING about having a bikini body! It means being able to just put a bikini on and go have fun at the pool, lake, beach, etc. and not give the way you look a second thought.
Easier said than done, right?
So how do we get the confidence to have a true bikini body?
I believe the best starting point is to get really honest with yourself about why you feel uncomfortable. Is it weight? Body hair? Cellulite? Stretch marks? Why are you uncomfortable? Be real with yourself! If you don’t face the thing that is making you feel uncomfortable, you will never be able to make it better! Instead, you will be trapped in that insecurity forever and no one wants that! So get real.
Once you have figured out what is really holding you back, your next step is to ask yourself the following questions:
-Why does this make me feel uncomfortable?
-Who taught me that this is bad?
-Does it really matter? Why or why not?
I guarantee that if you really dive deep into those questions, you will find that the thing you’re worried about… isn’t even really that important! Not only that, but you will also realize that you were taught to feel insecure. Someone else created the rule or the idea in your head that you have to feel bad about certain things. How ridiculous is that?
After you get clear on the answers to those questions, that the final step is take that power back!
Decide for yourself how you want to feel about your own body.
Decide for yourself if you want to take steps to lose weight or make any other change that might give you more self confidence.
Or just decide you aren’t going to care because it doesn’t matter anyway.
Just remember though that at the end of the day having a “bikini body” isn’t about your body at all, it’s about your confidence.
I wish everyone a very happy and healthy spring that doesn’t involve killing yourself in the gym, eating like a bird, or stressing about the summer days ahead. You are beautiful and ready for summer just the way you are.